Leslie Camhi, an author who writes the “Up Front” column in Vogue, revealed her failed love story in An Old Flame Flames Out with several purposes in mind. She described how she took the chance to reconnect with her “first love” who she had first met in her childhood. Camhi rented an apartment with this man after he told her his divorce was finalized, and set out to create their life together with her 6-year-old son, Asher. At first, things went well until he started traveling more frequently “for business”. Although he sent her love letters and called her, she uncovered the fact that he was seeing his ex-wife, and his divorce had not actually been finalized. As Camhi wrote, “then he vanished”. No emails, no calls, no contact.
The purpose of this article was not only to entertain silly readers with a romantic episode; Camhi explained from the beginning that her relationship failed with him leaving her, so readers knew it would not be a typical happily-ever-after love story. Instead, Camhi’s purpose was to tell other independent, successful women (audience) that in the real world, fairy tales do not exist, but that trying for one is bold, exciting, but not without consequences. One rhetorical device that indicated this message was that Camhi never revealed her lover’s name; she referred to him as “he”. This not only allowed readers to connect to the story more easily, but it also shifted the focus from the man’s personality to his role and actions in their relationship. This emphasized both his charm and his faults, which supported her conclusion that while she enjoyed their love while it lasted, she realized he was not the man she dreamed of, since he hurt her and her child when he disappeared. Because it was told in first person, Camhi was able to soften the fact that she had cheated on “her son’s father” with this other man in order to appeal to the audience as a credible and honorable person, worthy of listening to for relationship advise, with the diction she used to present her affair. This rhetorical devise was also crucial in achieving her purpose; I believe she was successful.
Love is timeless, as relationships have been an important part of life since cavemen, so there was no revealed exigence that decided the timing of the piece other than that the author was ready to tell her story.